The Absolute, the Relative, and the Practical — Seeing Śrī Guru Without Fanaticism or Offense
So the conclusion is not confusion, but harmony: the disciple maintains the absolute vision of Śrī Guru in his surrendered heart; the godbrother maintains proper etiquette and does not injure śraddhā; parents and society naturally relate through their jurisdiction; and the serious seeker knows that when absolute and relative conflict, the absolute must prevail.